Lets be real here, we are all guilty of comparing ourselves to others. Whether we compare the size of our legs or our height. Maybe we compare personality and academics. We ALL do it. But why do we do this? Does this benefit us in anyway? Because honestly for me it just makes me feel much worse.
I met with my dietician this morning and I was talking to her about how I found out my weight during vitals yesterday and that I was kind of freaking out about the increase. I guess I was going into a spiraling episode of comparing my current self to my much bonier/unhealthy self just a few months ago because she interrupted me with an interesting question.
She stopped me and asked me, “Are apples the same as bananas?”
Obviously I looked at her and thought she was whack because the two fruits are not even close to being similar.
I told her no and she began to explain why she brought up this comparison. She began to tell me that we don’t compare fruits and get upset when a banana does not look like an apple because that’s simply not possible. She told me that we couldn’t think of ourselves as fruits because it is impossible to get your body to look one way based on ones bone alignment. It began to make sense to me as she described it in this way.
I love apples and bananas and their appearance means nothing to me. I do not care that they do not look the same because they are both delicious.
So I guess (for an odd way of wording this) we are all delicious despite the way our bodies look.
I am tall. I will never be short and petite like some of my friends AND THAT’S OKAY.
Obviously I am not going to be able to just flip a switch and stop comparing myself to strangers on the street, but at least now I am more aware of how unrealistic and pointless it is to make these comparisons.
I am unique and when my passing comes, the important thing will be how people speak of my character. It is highly unlikely that at my funeral friends and family will discuss my weight and how my body looked.
So as of today I am going to become more cognizant of comparing myself to others.
I am going to use strategies and coping skills to redirect my thinking. When I get these thoughts I am going to write it down and rip it up because it is NOT important.
What is important is accepting my body and loving it.
Apples are not bananas.