I have been biting my tongue now for a while on the topic that I am referring to as ‘the anorexic body.’
The anorexic body, is how people who do not understand EDs, wrongly determine if someone is struggling with an eating disorder
So, let me ask you, being that I have been recovering from my anorexia for years now, how am I supposed to look?
Am I supposed to be rail thin and bony? Do you want me to have curves?
I have anorexia, so I should look like I have anorexia, right? Otherwise, am I really sick?
I am asking these questions for a reason. I am asking them because I am trying to figure out where this myth started that in order to have an eating disorder, you must look a certain way.
Granted, I know an obvious answer is media. Most often, when we see a skinny GIRL, the first thing that comes to mind is, “I wonder if she eats.” But, when we see a skinny BOY, its just assumed that he must have an insanely fast metabolism. The girl in the picture will go on to receive copious comments discussing her body shape. People will either comment things like- “BODY GOALS!” or “Gross, she does not look good at all she is a skeleton.” No one would ever dare to assume that the boy might be the one with the eating disorder. Nope, isn’t anorexia something only girls get?
I am not sure who or how these assumptions began about ‘the anorexic body,’ but it needs to stop ASAP.
People suffering with an ED are continuing to suffer because they do not meet the physical requirements of an eating disorder and therefore do not get proper treatment. It is as if there is a rule that if you don’t look the part, you’re not really sick.
I am curious about how we rooted the idea of the ‘normal/perfect’ body.
What is normal?
What is perfect?
How should my body look?
How should YOUR body look?
….does it really even matter?